I remember the night when Stefan and I had gone to see “Into the Wild” all these years ago. We had no idea what the movie was about, just about some guy going out into the wild, doing his own thing. The movie managed to catch me completely off guard, speaking to and from my heart, my yearnings, my view of the world. It was this movie that gently emphatically pushed me out into the wild and gave me (some sort of courage) to go on my first-ever camping trip – all by myself, an experience which I enjoyed and hated at the same time. I learned that I can do it by myself if I had to and I also learned that I love sharing the beauty of nature with other people.
Since then, I have stepped out into the wild on more than one occasion and done some things that were way out of my comfort zone.
- I've carried more than 20kg on a nine day tramping trip through Nelson Lakes National Park.
- I've climbed up Paritutu Rock in New Plymouth and made it to the top even though I experienced a full-blown panic attack on my first attempt.
- I've managed to make my way over the exposed alpine section on the Kepler Track in torrential rain and 100km winds.
- I squeezed through caves that initially completely freaked me out only to eventually discover my deep love for caving.
- Many many times, I've walked tracks with drops left, right, and centre and kept going, even though everything within me wanted to curl up in a ball.
And then something happened. Life possibly. We didn't go out as much as we used to. Life became more ordinary, hectic busyness surrounding us. I missed the wild and yet, I didn't do anything about it. And as time by, throwing a veil over my relationship with the wild as it passed, I slowly began to forget. Forget about the joy it brought. About the growth that came with it. And about how I had met myself over and over again, a woman sitting on a mountain top, listening to birdsong, soaking in nature, at peace.
What I didn't realise was that the veil of time had brought friends with it. Friends that weren't very friendly. Alongside time strolled Insecurity. And Doubt. And the most dangerous one of all: Complacency. One by one, almost as if left with no choice, I became friends with those creatures who, of course, turned out to be the wrong crowd. I became fearful in situations that I had been able to cope with. I also became frustrated with myself for not coping better. And I became angry with Stefan who still seemed to cope so much better with tricky situations. That's when Complacency made its final move. It began to whisper in my ear, gently, seductively. Eventually, I reached a a point where I didn't care anymore. Maybe my love for the outdoors had just been a phase. A phase that I had grown out of. Or so I tried to tell myself. Starting up again felt too hard, not worth the effort. I had failed before. Many times. What could I possibly gain from trying to become more fit and agile once again? Nothing, right?
And then, I read an article about Rwanda and how therapy has helped the people of Rwanda to find a way through their grief and trauma in the aftermath of genocide. I read how practitioners had come in, offering the standard oh-so-Western approach, sitting in a room, talking about the yuck-stuff for an hour at a time. An approach which didn't work for the people of Rwanda as it missed out on the power of their community. Of music and drumming. And of nature and sunshine. The people of Rwanda sent the Western practitioners home and immersed themselves in what they knew would help them instead.
There is a bottom line to all of this. A bottom line which I have read many times and forgotten many times and then remembered once again. The wild can heal you. Maybe not by itself and maybe it doesn't work for everyone. Just for me, this is enough reason to reconnect with the whenua. Because I know that the wild can heal me. And maybe, just maybe, not just me.